You might be wondering – who would have trouble deciding if they want a sensual massage or not! Of course, you would want one, right?
Well, if you’re thinking that then this article clearly isn’t for you. However, if you are a little shy, have a monogamous partner or some other reason that might impact your decision to pursue this type of therapy – then the following will help you with some common barriers.
Let’s take a look at some tips for deciding to get a sensual massage or not.
1. Are you in a monogamous relationship?
If you are in a long-term, monogamous relationship (meaning you are only intimate with one another) then getting a sensual massage from a 3rd party can obviously introduce some touchy issues. Naturally, the activity implies a sense of intimacy – even if there is a professional degree of separation between the client and the practitioner.
Of course, there is nothing inherently romantic about this treatment and if taken from a purely clinical point of view – your partner should have nothing to worry about. However, if the sense is that you’re seeking sexual arousal from the therapy, then your partner might feel jealous since you aren’t asking them for a sensual massage.
As with any relationship, communication is the key to avoiding pain as you obviously don’t want to hurt your partner or make them jealous by pursuing this. Talk to them and don’t push the issue if they object.
2. Can you afford the indulgence?
Getting a sensual massage is an indulgence that you may have to think about whether not you can afford it. It will cost a few hundred dollars for a standard session and this may not be an investment you can afford at this point in your life.
However, this does make it a great incentive to save up your money. Going without smaller indulgences to save up for a bigger and more fulfilling one is a smart thing to do.
3. Would you benefit more from another kind of treatment?
Perhaps you are interested in a sensual massage because you’ve had a bad month and want to relax, or you are dealing with a breakup. Sometimes the best option might be to seek out therapy or some kind of counselling rather than go for a physical indulgence straight away.
4. What are you afraid of?
You might be avoiding pursuing a sensual massage because you don’t have much experience being intimate with people and find the whole situation awkward. In this case, a sensual massage might be the perfect way to break down your barriers and take you out of your comfort zone.
Be sure to talk to the practitioner about any concerns or shyness you have as they will do their best to make you comfortable. Perhaps wearing a blindfold or something else could be the extra thing you need to make it all work for you.
5. Just go and enjoy it!
There’s no use sitting around here and reading this when you could be out there having an incredibly relaxing sensual massage from a beautiful guy or girl of your choosing. There’s absolutely no shame in pursuing this kind of treatment and you’ll be really happy you were spontaneous and just went out to do it already!